Caregiver Tips

The patients greatest need is to have the support of someone like you!

  1. Keep communication open but be a good listener. Allow them to express their emotions without criticism.
  2. Show empathy and reassure them that your relationship will not change, and that you will commit to them emotionally and physically.
  3. Take care of yourself and develop your own support system. Eat well, exercise, and treat yourself gently.
  4. Don’t ever make them feel like it is their fault for being sick. Don’t try to tell them what to do. This will increase pressure on them.
  5. Blessed are the flexible for they cannot be broken. You will wear many hats. Be flexible to perform other roles without replacing the patients purpose in life.
  6. At times you need to be motivator / coach. Remember this may be different every day. Take your cues from the patient.
  7. Be eyes, ears, and voice when the patient is overwhelmed. Weed through tough information and call 18004CANCER or the American Cancer Society at 1800ACS2345 when looking for answers.
  8. Accompany the patient to medical appointments and take notes to reaffirm doctors orders. Be a sounding board for later discussions.
  9. Consider a family pet. It’s a great family diversion, but consult with the patients physician before purchase.
  10. At home get help with the children, the meals, the house, answering the phone, and talking to friends and family. Ask a church group, neighbors, family, friends, or a service for help.
  11. Support partners need to support, not lead in decision making. The patient must have control. Remember, this is their life, their body, and their future.
  12. Be prepared to be the one that takes the anger on bad days. When the patient pushes away, hold them tighter.
  13. If you’re a spouse, reassure them that this crisis will not change your love for, or attraction to them as a mate or as a person. Be very honest with your doctors if you’re having intimacy problems. Example: If you’re having sexual dysfunction, don’t say you’re fatigued.
  14. The best medicine…verbalize your love and support for them. Be creative, write it, say it, or show it by your actions.

The only thing worse than being diagnosed with cancer is watching someone you love going through it. As a caregiver you experience many of the same emotions. These tips are not intended to replace medical advice but hopefully to help you come to a better understanding of the important role you’ve been given.

As a patient, I thank you!

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